Greetings of Islam to all of you... ^^
A couple of days ago, someone asked me about what is your opinion about marrying while study? So here I would like to share my own opinion about it. Firstly, thank you for the question.
I believe this is the hottest topic probably in the mind of all teenagers who are looking for a real love and on the way to find it out. Some said "I want to marry but I have financial problem" and some are not able to marry because of rules and regulation of schlorship. What they do is just sigh all the time and think about one thing only "I'm getting old".
Firstly, let me just share something that my father was married when he continued his degree and now he is holding PhD. He married my mom and I was 2 years old when he left me and my mom to complete his dream. Having knowledge which really differentiate him from others today. Both my mother and my father were very patient, honest and loyal in loving each other. My father continued his studies and I grew up with my mother. The point here is patient, honesty and loyalty are required if you marry and continue your study especially in abroad countries. If you have these , never worry to get marry.
If looking and observing from the religion side, I believe it never says NO is you want to get marry but you must satisfy the condition. As a teenager, our hormones are very active in this age and we are in the level of either be in the control or just enjoy and never cares about others. Most of us simply say "None of your business" whenever someone tries to ask them not to do that and these. For muslims, my opinion is if you feel can support your wife and you can't control your self from doing sins, go ahead and marry. If you feel you can't, the option available is fasting. I believe Allah is Generous and has mercy on all of his creatures, if any of us marry while he has nothing but the purpose of marriage is to avoid sins and slanders, go ahead and He will surely show you the way. He will guide you in every steps of your life. Pray for that as much as you can.
In other side, let say academic side, I believe it is more important for females. Here, I'm not trying to put the females down but what I'm trying to say is they need support more than men. Men need supports but women need it more. As an example, during hard time, the husband can be by his wife side's, encourages her and also help her if the husband has more knowledge and understanding. How beautiful will be love if a wife is doing revision and a husband is making her favorite dish and vice-verse?
I believe the only problem could be raised here is financial problem. My father was able to send money every month when he was studying. Believe in Allah that He will open any door of His mercy and blessings. Would you believe that a couple has more money after marriage? Never put the financial problem at the top as the main obstacle to do so. As long as an ant gets his food, for sure Allah has prepared our portion as well. He is Generous, Merciful.
If you are a student, try not to have a girlfriend but have a fiancee. Why so? Let's say that there are lots of girls in campus and the evil desires want to have a girlfriend and I believe without touching,kissing, chatting, messaging and meeting, you will not have a girlfriend. But if you have a fiancee, before doing it you will be thinking 100 times and realize that "it is not fair to the one waiting for me". I believe if you are honest enough you will not do such thing if you have a fiancee. As my friend said "we want a hot girlfriend and a pure wife as milk " so I answered that "then you have to be pure also if you wish to have such wife".
One more thing is if you feel lazy to study, remembering that someone is waiting will encourage you to be hard-working as later you have to support her. A question might be there that previously, I mentioned that Allah is giving "rizq " to all but why do I have to study? The answer is if He wish to give to us, He can simply give it but He really wants us to find efforts and hard-working to get what we want.
As the end of it, I'm just trying to say that have someone legally in your life and you will know the happiness and enjoyment of your life.(^_^)
A couple of days ago, someone asked me about what is your opinion about marrying while study? So here I would like to share my own opinion about it. Firstly, thank you for the question.
If we could look into each others heart and understand the unique challenge, each of faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance and care
Marvin J. Ashton
I believe this is the hottest topic probably in the mind of all teenagers who are looking for a real love and on the way to find it out. Some said "I want to marry but I have financial problem" and some are not able to marry because of rules and regulation of schlorship. What they do is just sigh all the time and think about one thing only "I'm getting old".
Firstly, let me just share something that my father was married when he continued his degree and now he is holding PhD. He married my mom and I was 2 years old when he left me and my mom to complete his dream. Having knowledge which really differentiate him from others today. Both my mother and my father were very patient, honest and loyal in loving each other. My father continued his studies and I grew up with my mother. The point here is patient, honesty and loyalty are required if you marry and continue your study especially in abroad countries. If you have these , never worry to get marry.
If looking and observing from the religion side, I believe it never says NO is you want to get marry but you must satisfy the condition. As a teenager, our hormones are very active in this age and we are in the level of either be in the control or just enjoy and never cares about others. Most of us simply say "None of your business" whenever someone tries to ask them not to do that and these. For muslims, my opinion is if you feel can support your wife and you can't control your self from doing sins, go ahead and marry. If you feel you can't, the option available is fasting. I believe Allah is Generous and has mercy on all of his creatures, if any of us marry while he has nothing but the purpose of marriage is to avoid sins and slanders, go ahead and He will surely show you the way. He will guide you in every steps of your life. Pray for that as much as you can.
In other side, let say academic side, I believe it is more important for females. Here, I'm not trying to put the females down but what I'm trying to say is they need support more than men. Men need supports but women need it more. As an example, during hard time, the husband can be by his wife side's, encourages her and also help her if the husband has more knowledge and understanding. How beautiful will be love if a wife is doing revision and a husband is making her favorite dish and vice-verse?
I believe the only problem could be raised here is financial problem. My father was able to send money every month when he was studying. Believe in Allah that He will open any door of His mercy and blessings. Would you believe that a couple has more money after marriage? Never put the financial problem at the top as the main obstacle to do so. As long as an ant gets his food, for sure Allah has prepared our portion as well. He is Generous, Merciful.
A: "Oh no! I can't hold it anymore"
B: "What is that?"
A: "I really can't "
B: "Tell me what is it?"
A: "I need to go to toilet"
B: "For what?"
A: "Of course not for cooking"
If you are a student, try not to have a girlfriend but have a fiancee. Why so? Let's say that there are lots of girls in campus and the evil desires want to have a girlfriend and I believe without touching,kissing, chatting, messaging and meeting, you will not have a girlfriend. But if you have a fiancee, before doing it you will be thinking 100 times and realize that "it is not fair to the one waiting for me". I believe if you are honest enough you will not do such thing if you have a fiancee. As my friend said "we want a hot girlfriend and a pure wife as milk " so I answered that "then you have to be pure also if you wish to have such wife".
One more thing is if you feel lazy to study, remembering that someone is waiting will encourage you to be hard-working as later you have to support her. A question might be there that previously, I mentioned that Allah is giving "rizq " to all but why do I have to study? The answer is if He wish to give to us, He can simply give it but He really wants us to find efforts and hard-working to get what we want.
As the end of it, I'm just trying to say that have someone legally in your life and you will know the happiness and enjoyment of your life.(^_^)
"What a woman wants is what a man wants"
Sincerely;
Abdul Qahar
thats great !!
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