When I'm 18

 

Title: When I’m 18

Greetings of Islam to All of you..

I wrote this with the intention to share some knowledge, opinion and experience with you all. This post is talking mainly about the challenges when we reach age 18. So here I just share few of them and I do not say that there could be no more. Everyone has his own opinion. 

“What doesn’t kill you, will probably try again”

1   Eagerness of trying all

As a teenager who is now already <22, I personally have gone through the toughest age and challenges in my life. When I was back in my hometown, the social freedom I will say was not that free and always under control of family. So I already knew the reward if I take a wrong step.

Trying the taste and feelings of smoking, drinking alcohol, being in clubs and pubs, being free with different style of clothing and hair are the major things in our mind at this stage. When we are watching movies and the heroes simply drink alcohols without any effects, we feel let’s try it out. But we never thought about the continuing effect when we addicted to it. Drugs could be also one of the “dessert” that major of us want to try. All we want at this age is to try all as we say that adulthood is just to enjoy.  

It is no harm to try something new but we must think of the effects before we try it out. We should ask question and will it bring benefits for ourselves and others, nation, and religion. If it does, do it but if it harms you, your nation, against your religion it is better to stay away. 

“Never say goodbye to what you still want to try. Never give up with what you feel you can still take it. Never say you don’t love that person anymore if you can’t let go”

2.      Love

I believe this happened to most of us in our life. Imagine when you were a small boy and always play with girls, that you have never felt anything, You were chasing each other, touching each other and so on but now you feel awkward of being with them and if there is touching you feel different and so on.

Most of us failed to control ourselves and even the wise among us bow to the weight of love. I did not deny that I have never been in love. Nope. I fell in love and I tried to make it my first and my last but Allah knows what is best for me. Let me share a small story of my friend when I met him first, we were talking normally till this issue raise up. He shared with me his love story and so on. One day he came to me and said that “I broke up”. After few days, I saw him active in messaging and I asked him. He was very sincere and told me everything sincerely. Well to make it short in one semester he changed his “girl - friend” four times. 

In some cases, those who are single are challenged by the whispers of their friends as if they do not have girlfriends they are not “man” at all. So by accepting the challenge they put themselves in a deep “dark hole” I called it.  

“Be respectful. Be responsible. Be safe”

3.      Taking things for granted

I also realized about this as we took most of the things for granted and when someone tried to give us advices, we simply reply “none of your business”. Even we never listen what our parents are trying to say. We just follow the temperature of our fresh blood and never think about our responsibility.

When I was in my school, I got C grade in Mathematic and for the rest of the day, I did not eat anything including lunch and dinner, I was sad for the whole day as I don’t have the answer for my parents. I cursed myself at that time as much as I can and cried silently. I know my parents are hoping and their hope is only me. I left them in my country when I was 16 years old and came here to continue my education. If I do take my responsibility for granted at that time, I would simply say to my father that I don’t want to go. But I know they want me to be someone who they will proud with one day.  

“Never choose a friend without a complete understanding and never lose a friend because of a small misunderstanding”

4.      Friends

Everyone wants to have lots of friends, best friends and so on. Our life is also affected by friend or peer. If we be friend with a good person, I believe we will be good and if we be friend with a “not-good” we will see the result by ourselves.

My friends are those who are accepted by my heart and I believe they are extraordinary. Be friend with everyone but what you have to do is take the positive and try to change the negative to the positive, Allah wills the rest and next life will be fruitful.

As a simple conclusion, I never blamed anyone of what they are doing or what they have done. This is because our father Adam a.s committed sin when He and his wife were in heaven of Allah. So we are their children’s and we will never be able to avoid not doing mistakes, sins but we can control it. The question is how?

Here the answer that I explained in a simple writing. Never try to do all kind of things before thinking of the result, do not delete the feeling of love but hide it for the right one, be responsible of what you have to be, what you are doing and so on and last but not list, be clever in choosing friends.

May Allah forgives all of us and grant us His Heaven. May the hopes of our parents, nation and religion will be fulfilled by Allah and may we all will be successful in whatever we are doing and aiming at.

Always remember that death is a mystery and we do not know when will be our turn. Always put a reminder of that in our mind and surely we will be vigilant with our deeds. Nobody is bad and nobody wants the fire of hell. So let’s work together and help each other to be a better person.

“'Work for the sake of your world you would like you will live forever, and work for the sake of hereafter as if you will die tomorrow”

Sincerely , 

Abdul Qahar