I'm The Imam

Previously I friend of mine came with a sad face and sat next to me.
Me: Whazzupp handsome boy/
He: Ermmmm.. I have a problem ?
Me: What is that ? A serious one?
He: I love someone so much.
Me: Great to know. U have proved you are normal. <:D>
He: Try to be serious <angry face>
Me:Okay! sorry. So what is your plan?
He: Errkk.. What you mean?
Me: LOL! Aren't you going to propose her?
He: Hahaha. You stupid. It's still early. Time to enjoy.
Me: Do you know something?
He: What?
Me: You better walk away before my shoes stick to your ***
He: Why? What's wrong with it?
Me: You said you love her. What kind of love is that, which enjoys you?
He: Urmmm... Urmmmm....Urmmmm
Me: Come back to me when you got the answer and if you have no intention, you better leave her. If you love her, be brave and propose. Enjoy when she belongs to you . When you will get award for every single word you say to her.
He: Okay fine baba. All the time turns to ustaz.
Me: Haha.... everybody falls in love. Make yours different. <wink>

Whenever I post about marriage or talk about it, most of the responds I received are "I'm too desperate to get marry". Well who does not especially if you are really working hard to avoid yourself committing in sins in this century. Let's look at one of  the Hadith of Rasullullah S.A.W (peace be upon him), He mentioned that 

"Marriage is my sunnah and whosoever turns away from my sunnah it not from me". Read it again and again. Doesn't it sound serious to you. 

Recently, my inbox was hit by few question regarded to relationship and so on. I never blame those who fall in love neither I will  do. Love is a gift from Allah, it's a blessing and it's a beauty where less among us realize the value and the beauty  of it. Why ? This is because we do not have intention. As you can read from the conversations with my friend, he knew he is in love but still he did not put any intention on why he loves that girl. Same here to most of us, we fell in love, we give too much love but sadly we never put intention to make that person the "right one" to receive all those. What we just think about is enjoyment and that what is sad all about. Spent years on saying I love you but at the end...each of us walk away on our own path. Isn't that sad to you?

Love is a gift of God, a blessing that every living creations are gifted by Him. Even animals love each other, their family and if you don't believe, try test them. A few years ago, I was watching a video where the baby elephant couldn't walk. The mother stays with him, help him, encourage him till he managed to walk. What really makes tears come to my eyes is when the whole group of elephants are leaving and the father as well but still the mother stays with the baby. The father elephant walked a few steps in front, he stopped and looked back. Trust me, he ran to them screaming like human. 

When we say love is a gift from God, we should put in our mind that, love is another way to bring us close to Allah, the heaven and take us away far from the fire of hell if the love is appreciated and the value is recognized. At the same time, that gift will lead us to hell if we misused it. I believe that all of us love our partners too much but why not try to have an intention to end this relationship on the name of "Husband and Wife? and that what will  make love worth of it. 

Here, I'm not saying go directly and marry, but what I'm trying to say that the male as Imam in marital relationship should prepare himself early by understanding the principals of Islam, basic of Islam, the Hukm of certain problems and the solution, so that whenever there is a confusion, the husband will be able to lead it to the right solution. If he does not know..and the wife as well then the problem will be serious as "some problems are sensitive or personal". Here, it's not wrong to be in love, but have intention to marry the person you love by the right way and prepare yourself from the religion side as well from financial.  

In this century, most of us will try to gain lots of money before getting marry. Well that's not wrong at all but life is not all about making money and working. There are many hadith of Rasulullah s.a.w and Ahlul Bayt saying that Muslim should distribute his time for himself, God and family, working too much is not an Islamic method of life and a Muslim should consider time for family, prayers and resting. Allah gives barakah to income and life of believers. Barakah means that money/food/needs that you have does not finish soon and God make it remain for more times and you have more benefits from what you have. 

As a conclusion, life is not all about making money but life is fair enough that you are required to give the rights to all, yourself, family, God and so on. If financial makes you worry I will suggest to find someone who is willing to  be with you, stand right by your side during the ups and downs of life. Find a wife who can work with your life. A wife who can commute with you. If you are struggling to provide for yourself, find a wife who can help you provide for yourself (either she works or can help you save/live more efficiently ). A good wife who suits you should understand the constraints of your daily life. A great wife will appreciate the hard work you put it in and try to make life easier. So start making doa to Allah to find you this wife or the one who will help you out  and preparing yourself from all sides.  Remember with all great power comes great responsibilities. 

Wish those who are in love to have their dreams come true, those who are lonely find their mates and those who are married get the blessings of Allah and happiness till they meet again in a beautiful garden called Jannah. Put your steps on the paddle and accelerate. Believe in Allah and you shall have a happy and blissful life. Wallahu'alam 

<lovely >
Janeman